Dear clients, current and inactive, colleagues and friends,
The national emergency now declared in response to COVID-19 requires that client sessions be conducted remotely until the crisis has abated. I am mindful that you reach out for therapy to cope with and alleviate significant daily stresses and the conditions they give rise to. That urgency can only be compounded by the risks and uncertainties driven by this pandemic.
Consequently, I want to be available to you now even more than usual. This means not only that we conduct regular sessions but that you feel free to reach out to me any time, day or night, when you are so motivated. For those, especially guys, who hesitate to "disturb the therapist" between sessions, I encourage you to err on the side of reaching out. I too am comforted when I know a client has stepped forward, rather than back, in the face of stressful moments.
Let me know your preferred method of remote communication be it phone, Facetime, Skpye, ZOOM, Vimeo or other means. Also feel free to reschedule sessions from your regular hour(s) if circumstances dictate.
If I haven't heard from you at your appointed hour, I will text an alert inviting a response with directions for contact.
My prayers go out to all of you, your families and friends for a safe journey through this perilous time.
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Is Suffering the Root of All Happiness?
This blog comments on the Sunday LA Times Opinion section piece entitled, “The Miracle of Melancholia,” (February 17, 2008, p. M9).
I was drawn to the article because it seeks to underscore the need for melancholia, or sadness, against what Eric Wilson, the author, describes as “our recent craze for positive psychology – a brand of psychotherapy designed not so much to heal mental illness as to increase happiness – as well as "… our increasing reliance on pills that reduce sadness, anxiety and fear….” He says Americans are “addicted to happiness” and calls it a “recipe for delusion.” Wilson finds support in the works of Keats, Handel, Georgia O’Keefe and Joni Mitchell. He quotes Mitchell as saying that sorrow is the “sand that makes the pearl.” “Chase away the demons,” she said, “and they will take the angels with them.” Wilson sums up saying, “We need sorrow, constant and robust, to make us human, alive, sensitive to the sweet rhythms of growth and decay, death and life.”
I couldn’t agree more. Yet psychotherapy clients could easily interpret his message as a judgment on their efforts to come to grips with real and painful situations that haunt their daily lives and impair their relationships or daily functioning. For them, no amount of gloom or immersion in the arts yields the “untapped possibilities” Wilson envisions.
Even psychotherapists who promote positive psychology and other theories that purport to teach happiness don’t promise perpetual bliss; ethical psychiatrists don’t prescribe medication for that purpose either. As an integral part of the work, therapists help clients to be with their suffering in ways that foster the objectives Wilson lauds. When necessary, medication can restore baseline mood or functioning enough to relieve unnecessary suffering and free up a client to do the therapeutic work. If Wilson had a better formula to address the psychic pain of therapy clients, this article would have been a good place to share it.
Short of that it appears he is romanticizing mental illness though he protests to the contrary. The works of artists such as the ones he names can be excellent sources of insight, inspiration and strength for clients hard at work to relieve real suffering through therapy. Yet, had so many long-suffering artists known the benefits of therapy, they too might have been spared the needless suffering we read about in their autobiographies and the media, the suffering they couldn’t channel into their artistry. Undoubtedly some clients come to therapy seeking perpetual happiness. I have been fortunate not to be their therapist.
12381 Wilshire Blvd
Los Angeles, CA 90025