Today's thought from rogersmind deals with learning to "detach" when faced with conflict instead of reacting in a counterproductive way. #conflict #resolution #productive #counterproductive #react #reactivity #confrontation #arguing #arguments #argue #fights #relationships
In Parts I and 2 we found it pretty easy to identify with Aimee and Jack knowing the right thing to do, but reactively doing the wrong thing instead. Well, here are the secrets to success: Keeping the Faith, You Are the Master of Your Own Fate, and Quiet Down and Tune In. These three blogs detail three critical steps to translate your good intentions into action. First, taking moments daily to remind yourself that you have more control over your survival mind than you think.
Picking up where the session with Aimee and Jack left off, Jack could get an "A" in the quiz if asked to repeat what Aimee said she wants when returning home grumpy after work. But being able to follow through as requested was another matter. As he sat with that, "Roger, please help" look on his face, I was as compassionate for Jack as for any of us who have "been there". "Jack," I asked, "Is Aimee's request reasonable?" "Yes," he said, "but man, I can't imagine ever being ab
One way Joe is trying to invite Jan into collaborating to improve their relationship is to frame his request for intimacy into a challenge for the couple to resolve together rather than a problem for which one or the other is to be judged or blamed. What makes this hard is that Joe gets afraid the moment Jan begins getting upset. Either he snaps at her or shuts down. The more he does either, the more upset she gets. This is their "the more the more" dance. So Joe tried saying