In Parts I and 2 we found it pretty easy to identify with Aimee and Jack knowing the right thing to do, but reactively doing the wrong thing instead. Well, here are the secrets to success: Keeping the Faith, You Are the Master of Your Own Fate, and Quiet Down and Tune In. These three blogs detail three critical steps to translate your good intentions into action. First, taking moments daily to remind yourself that you have more control over your survival mind than you think.
This title is the name of Babette Rothschild's book about the neuroscience underlying the two step reactivity process illustrated in Doin the Two Step Down in the Boiler Room. In that blog Boris, our hero, starts out enraged at Billy. Is this a reflection of who he is, or is this his survival mind defending him against an imagined threat to his security? Answer - See Doin the Two Step.... In session, by putting everything else aside, including his anger, and meditating despit
From prior blogs you were introduced to your defensive fight, flight, freeze, survival mind (May 24) and your CPU (central processing unit), or thinking mind (May 30). The bad news is that we are masters at pretending that our thinking mind is good at managing our survival mind when the truth is that our thinking minds exist to serve our survival minds. Yes, that's true not only for everyone else but you too. But wait, there's good news: Your thinking mind has much more contr
Oh? I only wish. Too often I sure don't feel that way. And sometimes when I do, it's because for a moment I felt good about letting so-and-so know how I felt about what they said. Using the terms introduced in my May 30 blog, The Root of Most Difficulties in Relationships, your survival system is controlling your thinking system. It wasn't really you who was behaving that way, not the authentic you who sometimes you can be proud of because you said what you meant and meant wh