April 26, 2018

Take a deep breath and prepare your mind to consider...budgeting. It'll bring liberation! 

November 2, 2017

Today's thought from rogersmind deals with learning to "detach" when faced with conflict instead of reacting in a counterproductive way.

September 25, 2017

In Parts I and 2 we found it pretty easy to identify with Aimee and Jack knowing the right thing to do, but reactively doing the wrong thing instead.

Well, here are the secrets to success:

Keeping the Faith,

You Are the Master of Your Own Fate,

and Quiet Down and Tune...

August 28, 2017

Picking up where the session with Aimee and Jack left off, Jack could get an "A" in the quiz if asked to repeat what Aimee said she wants when returning home grumpy after work.

But being able to follow through as requested was another matter.

As he sat with that, "Roger...

August 21, 2017

Nothing looked terribly wrong when Aimee walked into the condo after work that Friday. But on the other hand, nothing looked that right either. I instinctively began reading the tea leaves. It wasn't til I discussed what happened with Roger that I realized how much ene...

July 31, 2017

One way Joe is trying to invite Jan into collaborating to improve their relationship is to frame his request for intimacy into a challenge for the couple to resolve together rather than a problem for which one or the other is to be judged or blamed.

What makes this hard...

July 27, 2017

If being a single adult is as challenging as my blogs so far have suggested, then finding fulfillment in a couple must border on the impossible!

But no; in some ways it's quite the opposite:

Once the couple sees the potential for giving and receiving critical support to...

June 29, 2017

This title is the name of Babette Rothschild's book about the neuroscience underlying the two step reactivity process illustrated in Doin the Two Step Down in the Boiler Room.

In that blog Boris, our hero, starts out enraged at Billy. Is this a reflection of who he is,...

June 19, 2017

"It's so hard!" Evelyn croaked in protest against yet one more responsibility piled onto her plate.

I felt bad too. Shouldn't a good therapist simply produce those "aha moments" that last a lifetime?

Well, no, that's not how it works, unfortunately.

Soon Evelyn recovere...

June 1, 2017

Oh? I only wish. Too often I sure don't feel that way. And sometimes when I do, it's because for a moment I felt good about letting so-and-so know how I felt about what they said.

Using the terms introduced in my May 30 blog, The Root of Most Difficulties in Relationshi...

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