August 21, 2017

Nothing looked terribly wrong when Aimee walked into the condo after work that Friday. But on the other hand, nothing looked that right either. I instinctively began reading the tea leaves. It wasn't til I discussed what happened with Roger that I realized how much ene...

June 29, 2017

This title is the name of Babette Rothschild's book about the neuroscience underlying the two step reactivity process illustrated in Doin the Two Step Down in the Boiler Room.

In that blog Boris, our hero, starts out enraged at Billy. Is this a reflection of who he is,...

June 19, 2017

"It's so hard!" Evelyn croaked in protest against yet one more responsibility piled onto her plate.

I felt bad too. Shouldn't a good therapist simply produce those "aha moments" that last a lifetime?

Well, no, that's not how it works, unfortunately.

Soon Evelyn recovere...

June 8, 2017

Psychotherapy is not just about how you feel.

Relieving suffering is a major objective of course. It is also about a realistic search into who you are and want to be. It is about developing solutions and practicing them regularly in a safe environment.

My own therapy, a...

June 5, 2017

From prior blogs you were introduced to your defensive fight, flight, freeze, survival mind (May 24) and your CPU (central processing unit), or thinking mind (May 30).

The bad news is that we are masters at pretending that our thinking mind is good at managing our surv...

May 30, 2017

Remember the incident about the un-rinsed dishes from my May 24 blog titled, You're being defensive again. No, I'm not? The unintentional hurts the couple - let's call them Brunhilde and Bruno - flung at each other seemingly out of their control....

May 18, 2017

Occasionally, it seems presumptuous for me to think I know enough about what the client is going through to be of any use, especially when I can still think back to when I was wondering who I was.

Yet I see client "aha moments" playing out before my eyes over and over a...

May 15, 2017

My parents have told me that as a kid I walked around with a very pensive look on my face. So they called me “Le Philosophe”, The Philosopher.

And so it was...and is. 

While I took all the philosophy courses I could during collage, it always just sounded like gobbledygoo...

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